In the early days of our marriage, whenever we had a disagreement I lowkey expected him to call either my family or his family and complain to them.
He never did, I asked him why and he said that he is married to me and not to others, whatever issue we had or is having can always be resolved between the two of us.
He also stated that, the person you might be telling your issues might be dealing with bigger issues and may take it out of context and advice you wrongly.
He said he doesn’t want someone to see me in a particular way because of the things he said, that he my husband might forgive me but that person may never get past the issue.
No matter what the issue is he can never pick up his phone and call anyone to lament to them, and I learnt that from him.
Marriage is the union of two people not three people.
PLEASE NOTE
I am talking about a healthy marriage not a t0xic one, married people have issues and should learn to deal with it within themselves without a third party.
When it becomes t0xic and manipulative please carry your megaphone and scream to the ends of the earth. Don’t kpai in silence.
Don’t let anyone gaslight you into silence, or cut you off from people that will stand by you.
You are an adult and should know when something is not right, please speak out. I am a microphone ambassador for t0xic marriages and situations.
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